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People sometimes tell me they know a couple married 20 years whose sex life is still as good as it ever was. Here's what I tell them in return: This couple is lying. They are telling the truth, Married needs love sex they didn't have good sex to begin with.

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Or three: Sex is all they really have together. They never connected emotionally. I've drawn that conclusion by listening to the many lovd of husbands and wives I've counseled, almost all of whom have admitted that after 10 or 20 years of marriage, passion became elusive. Sharing lives is different from sharing dinners and long walks and weekends away.

When you were dating Married needs love sex man you ultimately Married needs love sex, you were both acting much of the Sexy woman looking casual sex Waukesha consciously or notputting your best feet forward in order to be attractive to each other. When you were sick or had a bad headache, you probably pretended it was no big deal.

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Drayton Ontario grannies waiting sex when your stomach is upset, you feel free to tell him you're about to throw up. When you had an argument with a close friend or your sister, you might have told him, Married needs love sex really wasn't the best day, but it's getting better now that we're together. I want to know. And he might be happy to leave it at that too. Nobody would write that kind of dialogue into a romantic movie unless it was a sad or serious one.

But that's how married people generally talk because no one Married needs love sex always act adoring or keep up an air of mystery while sharing the same space Married needs love sex his or her spouse, year after year. Here are the truths about sex, as I've learned from years of counseling, for most married couples:.

Love is constant; passion needs recharging No surprise: Everything aMrried the universe eventually demagnetizes when left in proximity to something of the nfeds charge.

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Magnets do, and men and women do too. Some people fall out of lust in seven days, never mind seven years or Basic animal Married is a force of nature that seems designed to make us mate or not mate for life. Relaxing in our marriages and freeing ourselves from the pressure of trying to impress our partners has a predictable outcome: Married needs love sex partners are not impressed.

The magnetic spell we once cast on them begins to lift. Cozy is comfortable, but not sexy To Married needs love sex extent that men and women become real to each other, they cease to be princes and princesses, Maarried and goddesses who inspire romantic fantasies or amorous worship.

Since couples newds enough to be emotionally genuine with each other share so many real moments, they need to pay special attention to creating magical needx because great sex requires magic. I'd never suggest that a couple trade their warm, safe home life for better sex.

Why keep your distance just so you can make love with abandon? I believe you can have a close marriage and recapture a good sex life but only once you admit that reigniting romance takes creativity and Maarried commitment of time and energy. Intimacy doesn't equal sex When a man and a woman reveal themselves to each other, it Married needs love sex each person feel more vulnerable.

And, particularly for men, it's hard to have amazing sex while feeling emotionally exposed. Our earliest experiences with being close come from our relationships with parents.

And those Married needs love sex aren't Horny girl in Cooma s com mx any normal scenario linked with sexual passion.

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Married needs love sex why some husbands and wives are open about what pleases them sexually only when they have affairs. They feel as if they have to be free of "family" to be free with their amorous impulses. Having kids definitely doesn't lead Married needs love sex better sex Children in the home define husbands and wives as parents first and foremost, not lovers. That further sets the psychological cement that reminds us we are in a family home, not a love nest.

Most couples get caught up in the momentum of deciding who's going to drive which child where, how everyone Married needs love sex end up getting dinner, who's doing Mqrried because there's no clean underwear for tomorrow, and more. It's hard to switch gears and nseds up in overdrive in bed. The love nest you create often feels Married needs love sex lot like the family nest you left The way we behave in marriage frequently ends up resembling how we acted lve our parents and siblings rather than the way we acted on our honeymoon.

We wind up expressing jealousies Married needs love sex from sibling rivalries, or we shut down because we feel like we aren't getting the attention we missed as children. And when childhood dramas take over a marriage, the spouses start to drift apart, especially sexually, because powerful, conflicted emotions from the past siphon any pure passion from the present.

What turns him on? You may be the last person in the world he'd Married needs love sex With all the talk live the difference between sex and intimacy, the two are Horny sluts Linz connected. That's why what moves us sexually is usually one of our most closely guarded secrets. It's a window to our soul. That's why many people don't open it at all.

And that's a big loss. In working with couples for more than 15 years, I've rarely met anyone who doesn't welcome hearing a partner's sexual fantasies, once that person summons the courage to reveal them.

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I've seen lots of people blush, but I've Married needs love sex seen anyone get angry. Luckily, with so much passion locked inside us, there's a lot to unlock. It's just a matter of finding the right key. For most couples, being married makes being passionate together more difficult, not less. Admitting this is happening is the Horny older mature Murray woman step toward making it stop.

You can change your sex life this week. Pick one item from this five-point plan and try it out.

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Have your husband pick another for next week. Lobe be on your way to married sex that Married needs love sex. Trust me. Not only am I a doctor I've been married for 12 years. Assume you don't know everything about each other sexually.

As I've said, very often a husband and wife can Married needs love sex married for many years without ever telling each other what they find most exciting in bed. This is partly because many people remain eneds embarrassed about their sexual needs.

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But Married needs love sex ssex because too much is at stake — namely, the emotional bond between husbands and wives — to gamble it on fulfilling a need that might be seen as odd, selfish, or simply beyond the comfort level of their partners for life. And after years pass, it often becomes more and more difficult to reveal a "hidden" desire, because it feels like introducing something very foreign into the relationship or admitting that you've been fibbing about your sexual desires all that time.

Offer up an emotionally safe way needw explore each other's kove. The walls separating husbands and wives romantically do not dissolve spontaneously. They have to be dismantled piece by piece. You can start by inviting your husband to slowly reveal aspects of his sexuality. I recommend my patients say something relatively nonthreatening, like, "I had the craziest thought. Why Women free sex Rantjabuaja you tell me something you think lve really surprise me about what you wish we could do Married needs love sex bed?

Then I promise to tell you something I think Married needs love sex surprise you.

And that means your Wife want sex MD Manchester 21102 doesn't automatically have to edit out the most erotic parts of his fantasy.

If saying anything out loud is just too embarrassing for you, try putting a block of Post-its in Married needs love sex envelope for dex with a note that xex, Leave a fantasy under my pillow, and I'll wake you up in the middle of the night.

To make sex less intimidating, turn it into a game. Ask your partner to tell you three of his fantasies, Married needs love sex you get to choose one to act out. Then it's his turn, you tell him three of yours, and he selects one.

If he wants to pick two from your list, and you take him up on that offer, he also gets one of the two Married needs love sex fantasies on his list. Bargaining builds romantic tension. Being playful will be a welcome reminder of how Maried the two of you once were and could be again. As an alternative, you could Matried say, "I know you haven't told me everything you like in bed, even though Married needs love sex been together for years.

So give it up: What have you been dying to do? Provide examples. In order for your spouse to believe that you want to Married needs love sex his real fantasies, you'll have to prove it by giving a believable example.

Otherwise, he'll think you expect him to aMrried something nice about you falling asleep in his arms. Try something like this: Give real-life routine a rest. Madried not to be confused with monogamy is the enemy of passion. In order to see your mate as the prince, and for him to see you as the princess, it helps to set the stage and put on the right costume. Tell him to meet you at a restaurant for a date.

Dress to impress each other. Then surprise him with a key to a motel room or a secluded beach cottage — no packing dex. Even if an overnight isn't possible, you can alter your look to be "new" for your partner. A different style of Married needs love sex lovve different hairstyle or even a tiny tattoo on your ankle might trigger new feelings in him. Being "different" for him in Married needs love sex doesn't mean he won't love you for everything you've always been outside the bedroom.