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But admitting these needs makes us feel like little boys, not big strong men. One of the things I love getting from my wife, Carlin, is to lay in her lap and have my scalp rubbed. This is one, wonderful, safe harbor. I just have to ask for it. I just must be willing to be deeply vulnerable. Just as its difficult for men to ask to be held, nurtured, and touched; its often difficult for women to give that kind of intimacy.
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I remember so many times when I felt at home when having sex wqnt my wife. The snug harbour analogy is perfect. I Women want sex Diamond Point of a safe harbor, bubbled up from my subconscious when I was writing this. I believe we all need to feel safe, cared for, seen for who we are, and accepted even with all our excesses and deficits.
Thanks for the comments. The older I get, the more I come to see the importance of this kind of loving wnat and safety.
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In a world that is turning upside down, we need to have a safe harbor we can go to to recharge our batteries, replenish our spirits, and heal our wounded souls. Hi Jed, Thanks for more of your insights. I have a comment, here goes. Guys are masturbating all the time, they are in a hurry, and Women want sex Diamond Point know how quickly they can be done with their release without feeling much of anything.
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Anyway, this is all a very round-about way of saying: We want women to be fully present with us. It is often said women are Tucker women free dating naked multi-taskers. I suspect men know this quite well from observing female family members and peers.
If men want intimacy and connection with this alluring species, the only time they will ever get it is during sex because women are incapable of being fully present at any other time. Interesting observations.
If we look at our biological nature yes, we are all animalsits clear that having sex during most of human history was dangerous. Being in the wilds of Africa with our pants down made it more likely we would be eaten by a wild tiger.
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